For those that are unaware, I am currently a single lady. No, it is not because of my desire to dance to Beyonce's anthem right before the bouquet toss. Mr. Right just hasn't found me yet. I have thought about on occasion what kind of shin dig I would throw when he finally finds me. What girl hasn't? Well, there is my coworker. She has imagined herself looking like a present when she is pregnant but has not thought about her wedding one bit. She is an anomaly that I love.
Ever since my mom purchased me that bride costume that everyone else also dressed up in with the elastic sequin head band with tulle going up and down in the back for a veil, I have thought about what kind of dress I would wear and what else would go with that day. Throughout the years, the level of detail of how what I have planned for when I finally walk down has varied. There have been times where I have known exactly what my flowers and cake would look like.
Currently, I only have a few basic concepts in mind. My dad has pretty much told me where I will get married and where the reception will be. I am not going to complain since they are lovely locales, and he does get a say since he probably is going to pay for it. I do not have a color scheme since I do not want to have spring colors for a fall wedding and vice versa. I do know that I would like to have at least one shade of pink since it is my color. As for my dress, I like the simple princess styles with lace that you can dance in. This means that I will probably need to get something with sleeves since "my girls" have been known to come out and play when it is not always appropriate. Not much beyond those thoughts since I do not know when I am getting married and to whom. I am really trying not to become truly obsessed with weddings, and having my wedding planned would probably not help with the constant potential planning.
A notable moment in my search for the ideal wedding concept was the fall semester of my junior year in college. That semester I took MKTG 3382 -Promotion Management. The main project for the semester was taking a brand, coming up with a product that would work with the brand and creating a whole marketing campaign for the product. I was in a group with three other girls, and we were assigned Godiva. What product did we come up with? Yup, wedding cakes. This meant doing research on the wedding industry which involves purchasing a few wedding magazines and reading wedding blogs. I now know way too much about weddings for someone other than a wedding planner. Oh, did I mention that I was also doing a presentation ball that semester? That means that I got to look at wedding dresses and try them on. Fortunately for my sanity, my next semester was in Spain; so I wasn't too obessed for long. It just was not a good semester to have a major crush on a particular boy.
When I log in to Facebook tosee what someone is doing that I have not seen since middle school, I have a hard time with my quest not to have my thoughts consumed by weddings. With people posting photos from weddings and wedding-related links and blogs, it is hard not to find oneself comparing other people's "I Do's" to one's latest nuptial master plan. Facebook stalkers can be some of the harshish critics! If you ever post wedding photos online, you need to make sure your wedding blows any other wedding out of the water. Yes, you might have thought it was beautiful, but the judges of the world wide web expect perfection. (Disclaimer: If you're happy with your wedding, that's all that matters. No one else's opinion is important.) I also would like to point out that if a daydreaming single lady clicks through enough wedding photos online, she can find herself looking at photos from the wedding of someone that has fewer degrees to Kevin Bacon than her.
I really do want to get married one day, but I am in no rush since the divorce rate gets higher and higher every day. My parents have not had an easy ride, but they take their vows seriously. This commitment is an inspiration and something that I will not take lightly when it is my turn. Also, I am not really ready to get married. I like having Beyonce's words as my musical mantra.
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